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Life of a Toddler Mom- 6 Tips to Get You Through It.

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While I was in my last semester of my undergrad career, I was in complete and utter overload.

I had student teaching from 8-4, work from 4-8, another class after work, and creating lesson plans when I got home. Can you imagine how stressed I was?

I remember being so exhausted and literally living off of 5-hour energy shots. I remember counting down everyday until graduation. Although, this time in my life was beyond hectic, I’ll admit, it was sure rewarding.

So, why am I telling you this?

Because, I never EVER compared anything to that one crazy semester…

Until I had a child….

I remember preparing myself for everything to come when I was pregnant. I read baby books, I watched videos, I went to about 4 classes a week, I took infant CPR, I even had a nurse I talked to on a daily basis. I remember thinking “I got this”. I thought I had it all figured out.

Um… Yeah… Not so much. What I quickly realized is LIFE isn’t quite much like the books. Emma didn’t sleep… No literally.. She didn’t sleep EVER. She was considered a “high maintenance” baby from what I had researched. She wanted to nurse at everytime of the day. She was never satisfied. All the things the book told me not to do (like co-sleeping) went out the window. The only way she would sleep was on my chest. And I was desperate. And guess what, she still doesn’t sleep through the night at 18 months old.

So when people that don’t have kids tell me they are tired, I squint my eyes at them thinking “Try having a kid, then complain”. I have no sympathy for anyone who says they are tired. (Lol) Sorry.

The infant stage was a piece of cake compared to the toddler stage. At least, as an infant, Emma wasn’t getting into everything. Now, if I take one eye off of her for even a second, she’s already climbing on the couch or trying to eat a bug. There is NO break. Only a short maybe 30 minute nap for her, and that’s if I’m lucky.

With all that being said, here are some tips that I use on a daily basis. They get me through the day and keep me sane (for the most part).

  1. Keep them busy- find what they like to do and keep them busy. If they are entertained, they will be less likely to get into everything. Example, my toddler loves to go outside. She can be out there for hours. When we are having quiet time, she likes to read tangible books or books on her tablet.
  2. Let them make messes- I know, this is a hard one for me too. Imagine me putting my arm around you and letting you know it’ll be okay. It WILL. Let them play with their jello, or that unimportant stack of papers, or the mail you just put on the table. Just let them. Why? Because you can always clean up the mess. They are curious little beings. Their job in life right now is to explore. The more you’re open to letting it happen, the easier it will be for you to accept it. Now, that’s not to say that you can’t set limits. Do what you think is appropriate. Nobody knows your toddler better than you do.
  3. Engage with them- Most parents are so focused on being parents, that they forget the importance of engaging with their child. Explain everything to them. Tell them stories. Have a conversation. Walk outside and verbally label everything. Show them new ways they can play with their toys. At this age, toddlers just want your attention, so make sure you give it to them. Even if it’s just 30 minutes out of your day. Not only will this help their cognitive abilities, but it will let them know that you CARE. They will be less likely to “act out” if you’re engaging with them.
  4. Mommy time- DONT forget to take some time for yourself. There is nothing wrong with some alone time. Get out of the house, get your nails done, go see a movie. Walk around the block for all I care! I know it’s hard to leave your baby in the care of someone else, but mommy time is just as important. You need to relax and stay sane. That’ll alleviate some of the pressure and anxiety you are having. And, no.. A shower does not count. I already know what you’re thinking.
  5. Deep breath- When you get frustrated with your child, it’s hard not to lose it. Especially if you are sleep deprived. Best thing to do is take a step back and take a deep breath. Try not to get frustrated. Remember, they are little busy bodies just trying to explore the world around them. They can’t help what they feel or do. Don’t get angry if they don’t listen to you. TEACH them right and wrong. Educate them instead of scolding them. In the long run, they will be more understanding.
  6. Just Do It- “Yeah, all this information is great but I’m just so overwhelmed with how much I have to keep up with. How do you do it?” The answer is simple…. Just don’t think about. Don’t think about cleaning up the mess your daughter just made with her spaghetti. Dont think about cleaning up the explosive poopy accident your son just had in his diaper. Just DO IT. I’m a firm believer in “mind over matter” and it really does work. The more you think about it, the more you dwell on it. And no good thing comes from dwelling. Eventually you’ll just be on autopilot when it comes to mommy duties. It HAS to be done. Just DO IT.

Im no expert on parenting but I do take things one day at a time, and sometimes that’s the only thing you can do.

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Being a mom is definitely harder than getting a college degree. However, instead of counting down the days, I’m making the days count. 😉

I wouldn’t change it for the world.

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Why I Chose to Be a Stay At Home Mom

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As Moms, we are naturally built to want to provide. Provide for our kids, provide for our family, provide for our cats (or is that just me?)….

It’s like mothers were born with a “nurturing” gene. (Because we are).

It is OUR DUTY to give our children the best. But what is considered “best”? Are we supposed to stay home and spend time with our children? Or are we supposed to work our tails off, make money, and give them the things they want and need?

There is no right or wrong answer here, but let me go into a little bit of detail and give you some insight as to why I chose to stay home with my baby.

I was a worker. I worked all the way up until I was 39 weeks pregnant. I could’ve gone until I gave birth, but I was huge, cranky, swollen, and every step I took was more painful than the last. (Pregnancy.. Gotta love it) I worked in a place where I had to talk with college students who were applying for scholarships. As a 39 week pregnant, cranky woman, you can only imagine how that was going. (Hint: It was not a good combo)

I decided, trying to raise a newborn while working was not what I wanted. In fact, I dreaded the thought of it. Even though, I thought it would all be rainbows and butterflies, we would sleep all night, she would never cry, etc. Anyway, that’s beside the point. All moms know that’s a fantasy. And BOY am I glad I decided to stay home; 18 months later and we still get up during the night.

So the real question is, “How am I going to provide for my child?”. At the time, I was a single mom, no job, drowning in debt. I needed a way to provide for my family, because I WAS NOT going back to work. I quickly realized that home is where I needed to be. I wanted to be able to see Emma reach all of those cute baby milestones. I did not want to miss anything!

Needless to say, I was running out of money quick. I started looking for jobs. Having a Master’s degree you would think that would be easy right? Wrong. I decided, “Okay, next best thing to staying home; I’ll find a daycare job and bring Emma with me. That way I will still get to spend time with her but won’t have to worry about being away.” Heck, day cares don’t pay much but I’d take a pay cut to keep her close by. I was praying for a sign on what I SHOULD do.

Now, for the record, some moms aren’t like me and HAVE to work to stay sane. Props to you guys as well. Any Mother who is slaving away for their children, I commend you.

On that note, after praying, the next day I got a message from an old college sorority sister asking me if I was interested in working from home with her. I thought, “Is this spam?” I said to myself, “well what could it hurt?” I decided sure, I’d like more info. Needless to say, my prayers were answered. I jumped into it not but 2 days later, earned a $1000 bonus on top of it all, paid off some debt, and continued staying home with Emma.

Where am I getting at you might ask? Don’t let the fear of needing money outweigh the want to stay home with your kids, if that’s what you TRULY want to do. I am a big believer in following your dreams! There are SO MANY opportunities out there. Don’t settle for a 9-5, punch in , 40 hour a week job. There is hardly a dream in that. Don’t be afraid to take a chance. I strongly believe in working from home and recommend it. It is one of the most fantastic and rewarding opportunities out there.

If a 9-5, punch in, 40 hour a week job makes you want to vomit like it does me, well then my friend we are in the same boat. If you’re wondering how I was and still am able to stay home with my baby, click on over to my page and throw your email in the bottom part for more info. I’ll walk you through step by step on how I did just that.

Thanks for taking out your valuable time to read this. Stay tuned for more coming soon!

 

Do You Make These 4 Mistakes When Working Out?

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So, most of us want to workout but aren’t exactly sure where or how to start. We do a few push-ups a day, maybe a couple of squats, work up a sweat and we should be good right? Eh…. Not exactly.

For me, losing weight and toning up has always been pretty easy (thanks to my good genes) but that’s not how it is for everyone.

Here, I’ll discuss the 4 major mistakes you may be making and why you probably aren’t losing that weight you so easily thought could shed.

  1. Not being CONSISTENT- You have to be consistent in everything you do for at least 90 days or more. This includes healthy eating habits, working out, taking supplements, etc. You can’t expect to workout for 2 weeks and already start seeing results. It just doesn’t work like that. Although, don’t we all wish it did.. Sigh.. Anyway, same goes for healthy eating and taking health supplements. You can’t do these things when it’s convenient or shall I say not convenient for you. It takes work, but when you start being consistent enough, it turns into a habit, and then that habit turns into a lifestyle. See the pattern here? Stay consistent.
  2. Not drinking enough WATER– Water should be the main thing you are drinking throughout the day. If you didn’t know this already, stick your hand out and plant the palm of your hand on your forehead… No really, do it. Okay okay.. I’ll admit, I’m not the best with drinking water either but, it is one of the most important parts of losing weight. Not to mention, it’s the best and most natural detox for your body. It rids your body of toxins and can even metabolize stored fat. So get that daily intake of water, at least half of your body weight in ounces, and bottoms up!
  3. Not doing cardio- If we do some crunches, some push-ups, maybe squats we will lose weight and tone up at the same time, right? WRONG. Cardio is probably one of the main sources of weightloss. Okay, yes cardio sucks. Nobody wants to do it, unless you’re just some kind of insane person. Kidding, I praise y’all. But it’s extremely important. Why? To burn off the calories. I made the mistake of thinking that if I did 100 crunches a day I’ll for sure get abs, right? Nope. You have to get rid of the fat to see the abs in the first place. “No pain, no gain”. Cardio doesn’t have to be all bad. Dancing is what I love to do. Circuit training is also a good way to go. As long as you get your body moving, you can’t go wrong.
  4. “I want to work out the right way, I don’t need supplements”-  Why yes this could be true for a select few, and I mean SELECT, it is not the case for most people. No matter how much you workout, your body will eventually hit a plateau. You won’t see as DRASTIC results as you once did the first 2 months. And that’s perfectly normal. Sometimes, we need that extra push to get over that plateau. There are supplements that can help increase your metabolism so you burn more calories a day and then there are some that can stimulate the natural production of the HGH hormone to help build lean muscle mass. Whatever the supplement, know that you are not TOO GOOD to take them. Everybody needs help now and then and there is NO shame in getting that extra help.

With that being said, I have a few supplements that I highly recommend for getting you over that plateau. All natural and safe for the heart. I take them now and I am highly satisfied with how fast my metabolism is.

If you want more info on these supplements fill out the form at the bottom of this page and let’s come up with a good plan that meets your needs and goals!

Can’t wait to hear from you soon!